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励志演讲:你的人生,不能被催赶

标题为Before you feel pressure的演讲首先是在YouTube上火起来的,目前观看量已经接近100万。

视频一开始,一位操着一口纯正英式发音的油腻中年男校长给一群至少是刹帝利的印度精英中学生做演讲:

Good morningyear elevens. Today‌s assembly is about the start of a journey. The start of the rest of your lives. In 2 yearstimeall of you will be finishing your A levels. In 3 yeas‌timeyoull be studying across the worldstudying at the university of your choice. In 5 years‌timeyoull have started your careers. Many of you will be in this room working for the top institutions across the globe. You will then get marriedyou then may buy a house. In 10 years‌time your life will be set for you. In 15 yearsyoull be 30 and from then onyour pathyour life will be set.

早上好,11年级的同学们。今天的集会(assembly)是关于一段新的开始。它将开启你们今后的余生。再过两年,你们就会完成A levels(英国高中教育体系)的学业。再过三年,你们就会去到自己想去的国家,上自己想上的大学。再过五年,你们就会开启自己的职业生涯。你们在座的很多同学会进入世界顶尖公司工作。然后你们会结婚,买房。十年之后,你的人生就会安定下来。再过十五年,你就三十岁了,你的人生轨迹就会定型。

这段话是不是似曾相识?而且我敢断言在中国90%的家庭都给孩子做了这样的规划,90%的人也正按照这样的轨迹去过自己的人生。这让我想起一个很久以前的段子:

这是中央电视台记者在采访中与一个西北放羊娃的对话:你每天干什么?‌‌“‌‌”放羊。‌‌“‌‌”放羊为了什么?‌‌“‌‌”挣钱。‌‌“‌‌”挣了钱呢?‌‌“‌‌”娶媳妇。‌‌“‌‌”娶了媳妇呢?‌‌“‌‌”生娃。‌‌“‌‌”生了娃,让他干什么?‌‌“‌‌”放羊。‌‌“

难道这人生本该如此?当在座的孩子陷入迷茫的时候,一位印度小哥哥伸举起手,走上台,驳斥了校长的言论,并发表了自己对‌‌”成功人生‌‌“的理解,博得了满堂喝彩。

首先小哥哥旗帜鲜明地反驳了校长:

I‌m sorryMr. Headmasterlet me tell you why that approach may fail you.

抱歉,校长,我想告诉你为什么你的这些话是错的。

接下来,他用老外非常喜欢的论证手段—give tons of detailed examples(给出大量细节例子),来证明校长所谓的‌‌”经典人生轨迹‌‌“并不一定给人带来幸福;那些没按照这种轨迹生活的人反而很快乐。

I know people who graduated at 21 and didnt get a job until they were 27. I know people who graduated late at 25 and they found work immediately. I know people who never went to universitybut found what they love at 18. I know people who found a job straight out of college making decent moneybut hate what they do. I know people who took gap years and found their purpose. I know people who were so sure about what they were going to do at 16they change their mind at 26. I know people who have children but are singleand I know people who are married but had to wait 8 to 10 years to have children. I know people in relationships who love someone else. I know people who love each other but aren‌t together.

有的人21岁毕业,到27岁才找到工作。有的人25岁才毕业,但马上就找到了工作。有的人没上过大学,却在18岁就找到了热爱的事。有的人毕业就找到好工作,赚很多钱,却过得不开心。有的人选择间隔年,去寻找自我。有的人在16岁就清楚知道自己要什么,但在26岁时改变了想法。有的人有了孩子,却还是单身。有的人结了婚,却等了10年才生孩子。有的人身处一段感情,爱的却是别人。有的人明明彼此相爱,却没有在一起。

举完例子后,小哥哥得出了第一条重要结论:

So my point iseverything in life happens according to our timeour clock.

我想说的是,人生中的每一件事都取决于我们自己的时间。

树立完观点,小哥哥进一步对其进行论证:

You may look at some of your friends and think that theyre ahead of youmaybe some of them you feel are behindbut everything happens at their own pace. They have their own time and clock and so do you. Be patient.

你身边有些朋友也许遥遥领先于你。有些朋友也许落后于你,但凡事都有它自己的节奏。他们有他们的节奏,你有你自己的。耐心一点。

演讲跟写议论文一样,也讲究‌‌”三要素‌‌“:论点、论证和论据。刚刚给出了论点和论证,小哥哥现在要给论据了。这拨论据很有说服力,横跨IT、文学、商业、娱乐、交通等多个领域,还提到了Jack Ma,看来马爸爸影响力巨大,已经成为国外孩子写作文的经典素材了:

At age 25Mark Cuban was a bartender in Dallas. It took till 32 for J.K. Rowling to be published for Harry Potter after being rejected by 12 publishers. Ortega launched ZARA when he was 39. Jack Ma started Alibaba when 35. Morgan Freeman got his big break at 52. Steve Carell only got his break after40 yeas old. Virgin was started by Richard Branson at 34. Getting your degree after 25 is still an achievement.

库班25岁的时候还在酒吧做酒保。在被拒12次之后,JK罗琳到32岁才出版了哈利波特。Ortega39岁才创办了ZARA。马爸爸35岁才建立了阿里巴巴。摩根佛里曼到52岁才迎来他演艺事业的大爆发。Steve Carell40岁才红。Richard Branson34岁才创办维珍航空。25岁后才拿到文凭,依然值得骄傲。

小哥哥再来一拨论证,并得出第二条重要结论:

Not being married at 30 but still happy is beautiful. Starting a family after 35 is still possible and buying a house after 40 is still great.Don‌t let anyone rush you with their time lines.

30岁没结婚,但过得快乐也是一种成功。35岁之后成家也完全可以,40岁买房也没什么丢脸的。不要让任何人扰乱你的时间表。

演讲快结束时,小哥哥祭出‌‌”大杀器‌‌“—以重量级的名人的话作‌‌”点睛之笔‌‌“。不过,下面这句话据说并不是爱因斯坦说的,而是挂在爱因斯坦办公室里的一句话:

Because as Einstein said‌”Not everything that counts can be counted and not everything thats counted truly counts.‌‌“

因为爱因斯坦曾经说过:并不是每一件重要的事情都能被计算,也不是每一件能计算的事情都重要。

演讲最后的结论一定要精彩,一定要把氛围推向最高潮。这就好比足球比赛里,一位球员带球突破,费了九牛二虎之力,杀入禁区,一脚临空抽射,球进了。我们来看看这位印度小哥哥如何‌‌”临门一脚‌‌“的:

And this is the most important thingI want you to be able to create meaningfulpurposeful fulfilling lives for yourselves and learn how to use that to make an impact and a difference in the lives of others. That will be true success.

这才是最重要的事,我希望你们可以创造属于自己的充满意义的人生,我希望你们可以创造属于自己的充满意义的人生。学会用这些去影响点亮他人的生活。这才是真正的成功。

最后为大家总结一下这番演讲中最重要的三条结论:

1. Everything in life happens according to our timeour clock.

2. Don’t let anyone rush you with their time lines.

3. I want you to be able to create meaningfulpurposeful fulfilling lives for yourselves and learn how to use that to make an impact and a difference in the lives of others.

写点我自己的感想:

互联网放大了占比很小的精英人群的成功,从而把巨大的差距赤裸裸地展现了出来。很多人正是利用了这种心理,在社会上贩卖焦虑、消费焦虑,搞得整个社会很浮躁。看看这些让人焦虑的文字吧:

你的同龄人,正在无声无息的抛弃你,不会再有匀速前进的同龄人,你要么一骑绝尘,要么被远远抛下。如果你稍稍有松懈,你就会被落下了。就算你呆在原地,缓慢成长,也是一种退步。

我想印度小哥哥的这番演讲给我们带来的不仅是一篇优秀的演讲稿、一篇优秀的议论文,更是一种新的思考方式。

正如抖音里那句著名的歌词:‌‌”我们不一样,每个人都有不同的境遇‌‌“。与其盲目攀比,不如做好自己。陶华碧50岁创立‌‌”老干妈‌”,如今坐拥70亿身家;褚时健71岁入狱资产清零,85岁种植褚橙,再成亿万富翁。

请大家按照自己的节奏,步步为营,相信每一个人都能和属于自己的幸福不期而遇。

 

 

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